When Siblings Feel Like Enemies

Healing the Rift Between PDAers and Their Siblings

 

 

This powerful course is here to help you release sibling shame, reclaim connection, and build sibling relationships rooted in trust and healing.

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Do you feel trapped between protecting some children and accommodating others—with no good options in sight?

Your child’s sibling relationship is hanging by a thread. The resentment, jealousy, and hurt feel impossible to untangle, and traditional parenting advice just isn’t working. 

No matter how calm you stay, how clearly you state your family expectations, and how consistently you model kindness and forgiveness, the conflict never stops.

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Your child’s sibling relationship is hanging by a thread. The resentment, jealousy, and hurt feel impossible to untangle, and traditional parenting advice just isn’t working. 

No matter how calm you stay, how clearly you state your family expectations, and how consistently you model kindness and forgiveness, the conflict never stops.

You've tried giving it time.

You've tried consequences and rewards.

Honestly, you'll try anything if it saves the anguish of seeing your kids hurt in your own home.

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You've got the perfect storm:

  • PDA kids who you love fiercely but who seem...harder than others. And who take all that "hard" out on their siblings.
  • Non-PDA siblings who seem to trigger their sibling by their very existence. And who are boiling with their own fear and resentment.
  • Attentive caregivers who are trying everything, but nothing works.

You are terrified that there's lifelong trauma happening right before your eyes.

I understand this fear because I have lived it.

I've poured all the wisdom I never wanted to have into this paradigm-shifting sibling course.

 

When Siblings Feel Like Enemies is here to help when life is so hard that every member of the family bears the scars.

I need this healing in my life.
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 “The Low Demand Sibling Course is practical and thorough. After just reading the first few pages of the workbook I started to identify “rebalancing” in my kids and started to appreciate better why they trigger each other. This course is a much needed addition to the low demand mindset.”

-J Williams
Asian Woman smiling at the camera while holding a small child on her back

 “The Low Demand Sibling Course is practical and thorough. After just reading the first few pages of the workbook I started to identify 'rebalancing' in my kids and started to appreciate better why they trigger each other. This course is a much needed addition to the low demand mindset.”

-J Penner

Imagine this...

Imagine this...

 

Imagine waking up and feeling a sense of ease in your home.

Imagine hearing a fight break out and knowing exactly what to do next, without fear or second-guessing yourself.

Imagine having healthy and productive conversations with your kids about their sibling dynamics. Zero shame. All compassion.

Imagine seeing your kids navigate their conflicts safely and independently. 

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Imagine waking up and feeling a sense of ease in your home.

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Imagine hearing a fight break out and knowing exactly what to do next, without fear or second-guessing yourself.

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Imagine having healthy and productive conversations with your kids about their sibling dynamics. Zero shame. All compassion.

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Imagine seeing your kids navigate their conflicts safely and independently.

 

➔ No more bracing for the next explosion between your kids.

➔ No more lying awake wondering if their relationship is broken forever.

➔ No more guilt for protecting one child at the cost of another.

 

Because you’re building something new—steadier, safer, and rooted in trust.

➔ No more bracing for the next explosion between your kids.

➔ No more lying awake wondering if their relationship is broken forever.

➔ No more guilt for protecting one child at the cost of another.

 

Because you’re building steadier, safer relationships rooted in trust.

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When Siblings Feel Like Enemies

 

Healing the Rift Between PDAers and Their Siblings

Created for families just like yours.

 

In this self-paced, comprehensive sibling repair course, you’ll learn how to navigate deep sibling wounds using a low demand approach, helping both your PDAers and their siblings feel safe, seen, and valued.

Finally, a course that talks about the sibling dynamics you actually face -- the fighting, the jealousy, the comparisons, the impossible situations you juggle on the daily.

Let's make it doable.

 

Lessons are concrete and practical, with video, audio, and text versions. We don't shy away from the hard stuff, but we also won't shame or blame anyone. You won't feel like shit about your family or your kids. And you might just feel empowered to change your family life.

Do it alone -- or with a partner.

 

Families come in all shapes and sizes, and partners can be the ones you're married to or the ones you choose to do life with. Regardless, this course is filled with discernment guides and discussion prompts for processing alongside the adults in your life who also love these kids. 

I needed this yesterday, and I'm ready to jump in today.

Through prerecorded videos, an in-depth eBook, worksheets, and journaling prompts, you’ll discover:

 

  • How to address resentment, walking on eggshells, and emotional shutdown in the non-PDA sibling
  • Why traditional repair methods don’t work—and what actually fosters healing for PDA families
  • How to balance the needs of all your kids without demanding more than they can give
  • The subtle ways siblings naturally repair (even when they never say “I’m sorry”)
  • The crucial signals of healing that most parents miss
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Through prerecorded videos, an in-depth eBook, worksheets, and journaling prompts, you’ll discover:

  • How to address resentment, walking on eggshells, and emotional shutdown in the non-PDA sibling
  • Why traditional repair methods don’t work—and what actually fosters healing for PDA families
  • How to balance the needs of all your kids without demanding more than they can give
  • The subtle ways siblings naturally repair (even when they never say “I’m sorry”)
  • The crucial signals of healing that most parents miss

Stop walking on eggshells and start protecting all your kids—without punishments.

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Let go of the guilt that you’re failing everyone—and start building real safety for your whole family.

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Understand the PDA nervous system so you can reduce harm without forcing impossible repairs.

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Create a home where rupture isn’t the end of the story—because repair is always possible, no matter what.

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 "We've been hovering at our breaking point, feeling like our kids would never tolerate each other, much less heal and grow together. But the exercises and practices I've learned from Amanda really work...it's slow and hard, but also unspeakably miraculous.

If you've got a PDAer, you have to take this course."

- Amy Taylor

 

 “I didn't know what else to do. I didn't know where to turn. Seeing my multiple PDAers' at each other's throats every day is awful. But I feel some glimmers of hope now, and my kids are already responding to these new approaches.”

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 "We've been hovering at our breaking point, feeling like our kids would never tolerate each other, much less heal and grow together. But the exercises and practices I've learned from Amanda really work...it's slow and hard, but also unspeakably miraculous.

If you've got a PDAer, you have to take this course."

- Amy Taylor

"When Siblings Feel Like Enemies"

This course will help you finally find peace.

  • 10 powerful video & audio lessons
  • Delivered accessibly with closed captioning, audio speed controls, and transcripts
  • Beautiful 90-page PDF workbook, including two bonus mini-courses
  • Dozens of transformative exercises to get unstuck, think creatively again, and meet your children right where they are
  • Targeted wisdom and practical scripts you can return to again and again
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 “The included e-book is super-helpful, and probably my favorite part of the resource because it is something I can carry with me on a device and easily refer to again and again, even if I am out and about. The thoughtful reflection questions are helping me take an honest look at my own role and responsibilities in my relationship with my PDAer, as well as connect some dots about why certain things might happen when.”

-C Restlburn
Asian Woman smiling at the camera while holding a small child on her back

 “The included e-book is super-helpful, and probably my favorite part of the resource because it is something I can carry with me on a device and easily refer to again and again, even if I am out and about. The thoughtful reflection questions are helping me take an honest look at my own role and responsibilities in my relationship with my PDAer, as well as connect some dots about why certain things might happen when.”

-C Restlburn

a bit about me . . .

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A bit about me...

 

I’m Amanda Diekman—author of Low Demand Parenting, last-diagnosed autistic PDA adult, and mom to three beautifully complex kids.

I created this course because I know how painful it is to watch your children struggle to connect—when all you want is peace, safety, and moments of joy between them. Maybe you dreamed of close sibling bonds. Maybe you’re carrying the weight of trying to meet everyone’s needs without falling apart yourself. Maybe you’re just so tired of being the referee.

I’ve lived this. In our home, we’ve had kids hit, scream, and shut down for days. And slowly—through low demand parenting, deep listening, and a whole lot of letting go—we’ve learned how to find connection again. Not by forcing apologies or enforcing rules, but by creating safety, dropping expectations, and trusting that healing can happen in the quietest moments.

This course is what I wish I had years ago: a practical, trauma-informed roadmap for building sibling relationships without sacrificing anyone’s autonomy—or your own sanity. You can do this. I’ll show you how.

I’m Amanda Diekman—author of Low Demand Parenting, last-diagnosed autistic PDA adult, and mom to three beautifully complex kids.

I created this course because I know how painful it is to watch your children struggle to connect—when all you want is peace, safety, and moments of joy between them. Maybe you dreamed of close sibling bonds. Maybe you’re carrying the weight of trying to meet everyone’s needs without falling apart yourself. Maybe you’re just so tired of being the referee.

I’ve lived this. In our home, we’ve had kids hit, scream, and shut down for days. And slowly—through low demand parenting, deep listening, and a whole lot of letting go—we’ve learned how to find connection again. Not by forcing apologies or enforcing rules, but by creating safety, dropping expectations, and trusting that healing can happen in the quietest moments.

This course is what I wish I had years ago: a practical, trauma-informed roadmap for building sibling relationships without sacrificing anyone’s autonomy—or your own sanity. You can do this. I’ll show you how.

Asian Woman smiling at the camera while holding a small child on her back

 “As a parent of an only child, I love that- even in this sibling course- Amanda also addresses families with an only-child PDAer, as (Amanda says) parents can take on the role of sibling and regulator. YES— she gets it! 

 

-V Keller
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 “As a parent of an only child, I love that- even in this sibling course- Amanda also addresses families with an only-child PDAer, as (Amanda says) parents can take on the role of sibling and regulator. YES— she gets it! 

 

-V Keller

What you'll actually walk away with...

This course isn't just ideas.

 

It’s real, repeatable skills you can use when sibling dynamics explode (or before they do). By the end of the course, you’ll be able to:

 

  • Diffuse relentless pestering, teasing, or “annoying” behavior without threats, punishment, or losing your cool
  • Understand why your PDAer targets their sibling—and what they’re trying to communicate through that behavior
  • Recognize sneaky sibling demands hiding in your routines—and drop them without asking your child to do anything differently (and without piling more on your own plate)
  • Use regulation play—specific games and power dynamics—to meet needs before conflict erupts
  • Step out of the referee role and into a calmer, more confident guide and facilitator
  • Know how to talk to each of your kids—including the sibling—about PDA, in language they actually understand
  • Watch for the micro-moments of natural repair and celebrate connection as it builds slowly and sustainably

 

This is the course that helps you stop sibling survival-mode, and start understanding what’s really going on—so you can finally change the dynamic from the inside out.

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 “Amanda calmly walks you through how you can bring more harmony into your family. I love listening to the audio when I’m driving and not having to be tied to a computer/video. I feel like with her guidance I really can turn things around with my kids’ relationship!”

-H Murray
Asian Woman smiling at the camera while holding a small child on her back

 “Amanda calmly walks you through how you can bring more harmony into your family. I love listening to the audio when I’m driving and not having to be tied to a computer/video. I feel like with her guidance I really can turn things around with my kids’ relationship!”

-H Murray

Need more info? 

Ready to step into a family life rooted in radical acceptance and real connection?

 

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