Why is everything so hard?

Result: You are dropping demands in the moment.

You're letting so many things go. You tell them to do their homework and they completely lose their minds, so you sigh and say, "Fine, you don't have to." It's time for a diaper change, but they scream and thrash so hard you just deal with the smell.

You're letting things go, so why does it feel like everything is getting so much worse?

The problem is that all your demand-drops are happening in the moment. You continue to expect them to do their homework every day or brush their teeth at night. And every day when it's impossible, you grudgingly let it go. Holding onto the expectation breaks down their trusting connection to you. They do not feel seen and heard. They do not feel respected and safe.

The answer is not to push them harder or live in resignation. It is actually to consider proactive strategies. What if you could actually, truly, wholeheartedly let this go?

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Your Next Step:

Ask: What actually matters most?

You're trying so hard to drop demands, but all it's leading to is more screaming, slamming doors, and a heavy, fearful resentment that seems to have settled in your chest.

It's not working.

You are exhausted, and your child or teen is still struggling. They are telling you with all these behaviors that something needs to change. That they are not OK.

Can you sit with your true self and ask, "What actually matters the most right now?" What is your deep "why" for this season with your child? Is it connection, trust, safety, calm? Is it communication or regulation or simply surviving the day?

What matters most?

Why Start Here:

Expectations are breaking down connection.

Even though you're letting it go in the moment, the expectations hasn't gone anywhere. It all still should get done. If not today, then maybe, hopefully tomorrow. In the low-demand framework, we shift the focus away from dropping demands in the moment and toward proactively shifting the environment to release the demand, so we can re-build trusting connection.

When the day is full of in the moment drops, your energy communicates that your child is not meeting your expectations. You wish things were different. You're disappointed and frustrated. This energy puts everyone into dysregulation and stress mode. No one does well when they are stressed and overwhelmed all the time.

We start with what matters most because when we are aligned with our deep "why," it is easier to wholeheartedly and proactively let things go. Ask: "How am I aligning with my values by letting this go?"

It Doesn't Have To Be Like This.

You’ve been doing Low Demand Parenting for a while now—or at least, you think you have. You’ve been dropping expectations in the moment, letting go of battles over homework, chores, or getting out the door. But instead of feeling more peace, you’re left frustrated, demoralized, and constantly compromising on your own needs. Deep down, you’re starting to wonder: Am I just being too permissive? Am I a weak parent?

The truth is, dropping demands in the moment isn’t enough. Low Demand Parenting is about doing the deeper work—shifting what you believe, how you approach your child, and what you want from your life. When you don’t do this, it’s easy to get stuck in a cycle of resentment and exhaustion, feeling like every accommodation is costing you more than it’s giving back.

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You don’t have to keep feeling like you’re losing yourself in the process. Let’s get back to a place where you and your child can thrive.

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Hi, I'm Amanda.

I'm so glad to be connected to you. I'm an autistic adult who has walked through my own burnout and burnout for my middle child. I have recovered from C-PTSD from parenting a severely dysregulated child, and created the Low-Demand Parenting method to help thousands of parents transform their lives and their families with radical connection.